Forever is Not a Feeling

“Forever is not a feeling; it’s a choice, a choice we stand by with against the odds. And it only comes to those who choose to work for it.”

Ella Thinks Aloud

The way we put ‘forever’ in everything – movie titles, romance novels, friendship bracelets, greeting cards – makes us look like we know what forever is about. But no, we don’t. I don’t. Especially in terms of relationships.

We often suffix ‘forever’ when we feel like we’re on Cloud 9, that we got the best feeling in the world, that we could lay there feeling that way for the rest of our lives. Come on, how many times have we heard (or said) “I could feel like this forever”?

But that’s where we miss the point. Forever is not a feeling.

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Because if forever were a feeling, it wouldn’t be forever at all. Feelings change, whether we like it or not. Feelings are the result of our senses, of how we receive and respond to situations and events, much like the weather. That girl you were…

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Friendship Highway

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I have a lot of male friends. There was even a time in my life that I believed I had more male friends than female ones. I even have a group of friends where I’m the lone female. On top of that, I have several male friends with whom I can eat out with, watch movies with, and talk for hours with – without a single hint of awkwardness. As much as people wish we could be something more, I’m afraid being friends is the best possible relationship we could hope for.

That being said, however, it’s a wonder why nothing romantic ever came out of those friendships. It’s not that I’m pining for any of these men – believe me, I’m not. In fact, I wouldn’t have our relationships any other way. I prefer them platonic, with nothing more than good memories and honest faith in our…

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20 Soul-Stirring Passages From Shinji Moon’s Poetry That Are Hauntingly Beautiful

“There is a shipwreck between your ribs. You are a box with fragile written on it, and so many people have not handled you with care.”

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Shinji Moon is one of my favorite poets and such a beautifully talented writer and I’m always shocked when more people don’t know about her. Her poetry and words are all over the internet but I thought I’d create a collection of some of my favorite passages from her poetry. Read the lines below and check out her poetry book The Anatomy of Being here.


“Dig yourself a ditch, six
feet deep, and bury everything that you’ve ever
said, everything that you’ve never
meant, and everything that has
burned you and left you with nothing
but ash”


“You will fall in love with train rides, and sooner or later you will realize that nowhere seems like home anymore.”


“There is a shipwreck between your ribs. You are a box with fragile written on it, and so many people have not handled you with care.”


“You were the…

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Each Myers-Briggs Type’s Fatal Flaw In Relationships (And What To Do About It)


Fatal flaw: Neglecting personal needs in favor of serving others

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Fatal flaw: Idolizing partners

INFPs are sensitive and compassionate people, but when it comes to romantic relationships, they tend to put the object of their interest on a pedestal. As natural idealists who often can’t help but get lost in their dreamy vision worlds, it doesn’t feel totally surprising that INFPs often idolize partners, building them up in their heads, creating what they’d like for these people to be to them rather than allowing their partners to show them who they are. This tends to put an awful lot of pressure on an INFP’s partner, creating unrealistic expectations of them and often putting a strain on the relationship.

What to do about it:

Allow others to show you who they are before you start to decide who they are or who they could be to you. It’s hard, with an INFP’s very active imagination, tendency to fantasize…

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There is Love

“If love could speak, it would do so in different sentences.”

Ella Thinks Aloud

If love could speak, it would do so in different sentences.

There are some that happen in an instant – a spur-of-the-moment burst of emotion and passion. It is the kind that narrates, “I’ve loved youthe moment I laid eyes on you.” And then some loves are gradual, progressive, the kind that takes years to bloom and never wilts, the kind that finally lets you know, “I have loved you all these years.”

There is a love that becomes your source of joy, leaving that smile on your face and the butterflies in your stomach, one that tells you, “You make me so, so happy.” Then there’s another that takesthe hurt, that carries the burden, that loves you no matter how difficult it can be to love; the kind that promises, “For you, I can endure the pain.”

There is a love that embraces you for who you are, strengths…

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